Trouble signs for couples

All is far in love and war.What can that saying really be saying?  Are they saying there is a similarity between the two?Now it isn’t for sure that that is what they were trying to say, but there sure are a lot of things that are the same.

The similarities between the two I think are when that love becomes war.There could still be love for the two of them, but they are usually in a battle like it is a war.  I have seen this first hand doing couples counseling San Diego.A couple that used to be in love now is a couple in a constant fight.It is my objective to help bring peace between the two people.And to bring back that once great love between the two.

So what are some signs that trouble is brewing?  One of the biggest warning signs is communication.Or should I put it this way, no communication.  For any relationship, communication is key.Since it is crucial, if you as a couple are able to know that there is less communication, that is a sign.It is a sign or warning of trouble.  Whether I am doing couples counseling or as a marriage counselor in San Diego I see it all the time.Because in essence if the couple is not able to communicate, any little problem can turn into a big problem.Being able to communicate effectively helps to prevent that.

So as a family therapist San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.  One of the biggest keys to communication is listening.A lot of people when they think of being able to communicate they think it refers to talking.But truthfully if you are unable to listen very well, you won’t really be able to understand each other.So by assisting the couple to learn how to listen better, it will greatly improve their communications.

By being able to spot this sign, a couple will be able to better know that trouble may be starting.Now if the couple can spot this problem early in their relationship, they might be able to avoid some serious problems. From my experience the best way to solve problems in a relationship is to avoid them.But if you don’t notice it early, the way to solve it best is to learn how to effectively communicate.  Sounds simple but it will have a major affect.